Somatic Healing Explained in Practical Terms

I share a grounded guide to somatic healing for women who have learned to override their instincts, showing how social conditioning, trauma, and neurodivergence erode body trust and how to rebuild it through simple, steady practices. We move from theory to tools: notice and name sensations, regulate before you interpret, and take small actions that restore confidence.

• what somatic work looks like in daily life
• why insight alone cannot override dysregulation
• exhale lengthening, jaw softening, grounding through feet
• small regulated actions to build trust
• using HALT to check state before decisions

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• Feel chronically on edge or emotionally shut down
• Understand their trauma cognitively but still feel dysregulated
• Want practical nervous system regulation tools
• Are ready for deeper somatic integration

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• 6 weeks

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Transcript

What Somatic Really Means

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Welcome to the Awaken Heart, a podcast for healing women where your voice matters, your body is sacred, and your healing is never rushed. I'm Autumn, licensed professional counselor, specializing in trauma and neurodivergent women's nervous system healing. This is where we move from survival mode into embodied clarity and grounded power. Today's episode is a because I want to talk about somatic, what somatic means, what somatic therapy means, because it is a popular buzzword. It can be everywhere, social media, therapy sessions, in the wellness culture at large, right? But a lot of people that I come in contact with, hell, even me, like I had to be trained in order to understand what somatic meant. And I've taken trainings, I'm in training. So like it's not just like, oh, I'm gonna look it up and there's one little answer for it. So I want to help us all. We've heard the term, we're curious about it. Some of us, if you're like me, feel a little drawn to it. But we don't know what somatic work looks like outside of retreat, a yoga class, a therapy session that costs hundreds of dollars, right? So today I want to give you a grounded conversation, no mysticism, no fluff, no gatekeeping, just a clear, practical explanation of what somatic work actually is and what it looks like day to day in your real life. If you've ever felt disconnected from your body, if you've ever second-guessed your instincts, if you've ever wondered whether somatic work is for you, this episode can be your starting point. So let's dive in.

SPEAKER_00 1:48

There's a moment many women know intimately.

The Cost Of Overriding Instincts

Social Conditioning And Body Disconnection

Trauma, Adaptation, And Safety

SPEAKER_01 1:53

Something shifts in your body, maybe a tightening in your chest, something about your stomach may tighten or clinch up or drop, maybe a subtle wave of nausea. Just an something that's a sense that makes you feel that something's not right. And almost immediately your mind begins to negotiate. Am I overreacting? Am I misunderstood? Or am I misunderstanding someone? Maybe I'm being too sensitive, maybe it's just not that serious, and I need to calm down. And before long, the body signals are overridden. If you've ever talked yourself out of your instincts, this is what this episode is about. It's about I'm going to talk about why women stop trusting their bodies and how to rebuild that trust in a way that is grounded, not reactive. So, first up, how do we lose body trust? Honestly, you know, depending on your childhood experiences, your childhood upbringing, your environment, your parents, the trauma that you may have endured. When you hear the word reclaim or lost body trust, the reality is you may have never had it. It's not about reclaiming, it's about claiming. So I want to put that out there because I don't want to not acknowledge that sometimes our paths are so hard that we get jumped into trauma from the very beginning and we've never understood safety. But there are some other common waves other than trauma, which we'll talk a little bit more about. Three, three, three ways I think that we can lose body trust. First up is social conditioning, right? We are socialized out of our bodies early. Girls are praised for being agreeable, being polite, for not causing conflict, for having that pretty little smile that makes everyone else feel comfortable no matter how you feel, no matter what was just said or done. And you're praised for making others comfortable ultimately, right? Relational harmony becomes safer than internal truth. Many of us learn keeping the pay the peace is more important than honoring discomfort. Being liked is more important than being aligned. I mean, girls, there's research that shows that girls receive more corrective feedback about their tone and behavior than their male counterparts. And over time, this creates disconnection, not dramatic disconnection, just subtle override. You feel something, you explain it away. Going back to the trauma component, nervous system adaptation, when someone grows up in an environment where speaking up led to punishment, emotions were dismissed, boundaries caused chaos, or were never even allowed, or just completely walked all over, made fun of, mocked, you name it. Where authenticity felt unsafe, or you couldn't be you without being told you were too much, needed to go away, something was wrong with you, you needed to be more like so-and-so. The nervous system adapts. It learns that safety comes from minimizing, from softening, appeasing, disconnecting. That adaptation is intelligence because it kept you safe. But it disrupted body trust. Because now when your body signals something, your system says, don't go there, that's dangerous. And I'm about to roll into the ADHD neurodivergence layer. And when you think about executive functioning, trauma and neurodivergence, chronic stress narrows access to executive functioning. Hmm. Something that's already hard, say emotion regulation is already hard for a neurodivergent trauma experienced person. Now add on stress. All right, so the third thing that I think keeps us disconnected is the neurodivergent layer. Because there may be heightened rejection sensitivity. There may be faster nervous system activation, maybe emotional intensity, the executive functioning component. Maybe there's a history of being told you're too much. I've always laughed too loud. I'm always too loud. Everyone's always told me I'm too loud. And I hate loud things. Like I don't want to be in loud rooms or loud noises. So like it's it's a it's it's a you know part of being neurodivergent. I'm a little conundrum. All right. Where did I go? Oh, okay, my bad. Got off on a tangent. So when you're when your body reacts, right, you don't know. Like, is this intuition or am I spiraling? And that confusion erodes the trust that you have with yourself to know what is right and what is wrong. And the more you question your body, the quieter it becomes.

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The more doubt you have about it, the quieter it becomes.

SPEAKER_01 8:20

For years, my body was tight, guarded, always anticipating something: disapproval, rejection, conflict, abandonment. And because of that bracing, I overrode my const myself constantly. I stayed in relationships that were one-sided. I stayed in relationships that made me feel unlovable, not cool, not fun to be around, like I was somehow the worst person in the room. I stayed in workplaces that didn't align with my values. I people pleased to the absolute maximum, even when it violated something deep inside of me. I struggled to say no to partners, to friends, even to my children when saying no would have been a healthier option, the healthier choice. And it wasn't because I didn't know better, I knew better. I understood trauma, I understood attachment, I understood nervous system responses. I could intellectualize boundaries all day long, and still my body would brace and I would override it. There's no amount of insight that can override a dysregulated nervous system.

SPEAKER_00 9:38

I want to say that again.

Neurodivergence And Faster Activation

Personal Story Of Override And Bracing

Bringing The Body Into Healing

SPEAKER_01 9:40

You know, I'm standing on my podium, knocking my boots on the ground, bang, bang, bang, hitting the podium with my fist, bang, bang, bang. There's no amount of insight that can override a dysregulated nervous system. It wasn't until my body became part of the healing that things began to shift. Not dramatically, not overnight, but steadily. When I started slowing down, relaxing my jaws, lengthening my exhales, letting my pelvic floor soften instead of brace. When I started talking to myself like someone I deeply loved, steady, compassionate, grounded. When I began aligning my choices with my values, not with what others expected of me, that's when advocacy felt clearer, stronger, even calmer. Healing began to take hold because my body was finally involved. All right. That's my share. That's my share. The body has to come online with the intellectual component. So take a sip, take a breath. Let's practice that exhale longer than the inhale. So inhale. Let it out. Let that exhale be long and slow. Soften just a millimeter on the exhale. And if you're listening to this, here's my mid-roll. If you're listening to this and saying, yes, this is exactly what I experience, or I understand where you're coming from. I understand the disconnect. I want you to know this isn't just information I teach on the podcast. This is the foundation of my six-week somatic healing group beginning April 21st. It's a small therapist-led container where we practice this in real time, regulating, noticing, speaking from steadiness instead of survival mode. If you want to go deeper than insight and actually involve your body in the healing process, enrollment opens March 23rd. You can find the details in the show notes. And you can even go ahead and sign up, get an early, get up on the wait list and be notified before March 23rd for signing up. Okay, that's my sales pitch. It was a little wonky. I'm not a salesperson. I'm getting better. I'm working on it. Girls got goals, right? But it is something I believe in. It is a good program. I really want to help bridge the gap between the mind and body healing modalities. All right. So if you recognize yourself in any part of what I've shared so far, this I just I want to say this because I say this all the time, and I think it needs to be said. There's nothing wrong with you. Your nervous system adapted and it can adapt again. So I want to talk about how to rebuild that trust intentionally. But side note, when I was some fun thoughts came out of this episode when I was talking to my son about it. If you look at being somatic as playing a video game with dialogue where you interact and there's a delay in the response and dialogue. So, like maybe Skyrim, Fallout. The character talks, stands there while the response options come on the screen, and then the character is waiting for you to read the responses. And then you choose your response. No emergency, no rush. Just a calm process to respond. That's the example I would give of being somatic. Have time between a situation and your response and respond from a grounded place, a sure place, a response that is best and healthiest, assuming your character in the game isn't nefarious. Okay, so that was just a side note. I thought it was cute. I am all about neurodivergence, gamifying our lives. And if we can gamify our somatic healing, it might be easier to slow down and take a breath. It might be easier to get that deep breath in way more than you thought. Okay, so step one, I want you to stop interrogating the signal. When you feel discomfort, don't immediately analyze it. Instead, say something just changed. That pause interrupts override. Your ability to sense internal body, like internal body states, interoception, that's research shows that when we name sensations, even simply labeling them, the nervous system begins to regulate. You don't have to analyze the feeling, you don't have to have to justify it, and you don't have to turn it into a story. Just notice and name it. My chest tightened, my stomach dropped, I felt a shift. That alone increases emotional regulation capacity. It brings the prefrontal cortex back online, it tells your body, I'm paying attention, and this is the beginning of rebuilding trust. When we name what we feel, activity in the emotional centers of the brain decreases and regulation improves. That's not mystical, it's neurobiology. Step two, regulate before you interpret. This is where the gamifying comes in. If your nervous system is activated, your interpretation will skew negative. Full stop. Not because you're dramatic or irrational, but because in fight or flight, the brain prioritizes protection over precision. When your system is activated, everything can start to look like a threat. A neutral tone feels like rejection. A delayed text feels like abandonment. Small disagreements feel like danger. So here's the rule: you cannot accurately interpret a situation while dysregulated. First, regulate, then interpret. This may look messy at first. Most women do not develop real-time awareness immediately. You will often have retrospection before you have present moment awareness. Meaning you might only realize later, oh, that's when my chest tightened. That's when I started talking faster. That's when I felt small. And that none of that is failure. That is skill building. So if you can't catch it live just yet, start here. Reflect, recall, reverse engineer. After a moment that felt off, ask yourself, what did I feel in my body? Was my jaw tight? Was my breath shallow?

SPEAKER_00 16:52

Did I feel heat? Did I start overexplaining? Did any body parts get tense? So get into the body, figure out what happened.

SPEAKER_01 17:06

Next, ask yourself what happened right before that. A tone shift, a facial expression, a boundary request, a moment of being misunderstood. This is how you map your triggers. Not to shame yourself, but to build awareness. And then now you regulate. Notice your jaw. Relax your jaws. Park your tongue at the bottom of your mouth. Let it lightly press in the back of your teeth. Don't let it be pressing up against the roof of your mouth or the top of your teeth forcefully. Lengthen your exhale.

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Feel the floor under your feet. You don't need complete calm. You need steadiness. And many people ask, how do I know if this is intuition or anxiety?

Midroll: Somatic Group Invitation

Nothing Wrong With You

Gamifying Somatic Pausing

Step One: Notice And Name

Step Two: Regulate Then Interpret

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Here's the difference. Anxiety feels urgent, fast, loud, catastrophic. It demands immediate resolution. Intuition feels steady, less dramatic. Even if it's firm, it's less dramatic. Anxiety says, fix this now or something terrible will happen. Intuition says, this doesn't feel a line. But you cannot reliably tell the difference while dysregulated. That's why we regulate first. When your body is steadier, your interpretation becomes clearer. Regulation clarifies perception. It doesn't erase your instincts, it refines them. And over time, what starts as hindsight becomes present moment awareness. But it begins with slowing down. It begins with involving the body. Step three. Take action. Small regulated action. Rebuilding body trust requires follow-through. Insight alone does not rebuild trust. Your body does not rebuild trust because you understood something. It rebuilds trust because you responded differently. If something feels off, even slightly, you don't need to make a dramatic decision. You don't need to end the relationship. You don't need to confront someone immediately or blow your life up. You need a small, regulated action. That might sound something like, I need a moment. That doesn't feel right. I'm going to think about it. Or simply, I'll get back to you. Short, calm, non-defensive, not explaining yourself. Or it might mean physically shifting your body, going to the bathroom to breathe, stepping outside for air, leaving early, taking up space, taking space, turning your phone off for an hour, a small exit, a small pause, a small reset. Because here's what matters. When you take even a small action aligned with your body's signal, you send a message internally. Your body feels heard. That is how trust rebuilds, or you build it from scratch, not through force, not through perfection, through repetition. And sometimes when what feels off isn't danger, it might be dysregulation. That's where the discernment comes in. After you step away, ask yourself something simple. Halt. H A L T. Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. These states dramatically impact perception. If you are dysregulated because you're exhausted or overstimulated, your interpretation may skew. So regulate first, eat something, rest, hydrate, breathe, then reassess. This is not about reacting to every sensation. It's about responding from steadiness. When you repeatedly pause, regulate, take small aligned action, your body begins to learn, my signals matter. And when your body trusts that you will respond, it stops screaming, it becomes clearer, more precise. That's when intuition starts to feel different than anxiety. It'll feel steady. It won't feel so urgent. More you follow through, even in small ways, the stronger the internal trust becomes. Confidence is not loud, it is the accumulated result of small regulated follow-through, showing up for yourself over and over and over and over again in tall small, tiny steps, tiny moments, moment after moment after moment. I want you to think about a recent moment, not a dramatic one, not the worst one, just a subtle one. A conversation, a text exchange, a meeting, a date, maybe a family interaction. When was the last time your body signaled something? Maybe your stomach stomach tightened, maybe your chest felt heavy, or your heart raced, or your heart beat heavily in your chest? Maybe you clench your jaws, maybe you grind your teeth, maybe you suddenly felt smaller, hotter, or rushed. Now stay there. What did your mind say immediately after that signal? Did it say you're overreacting? Calm down. Don't make this a thing. Just be nice. It's not that big of a deal. Did you override yourself? Talk faster, explain more, smile when you didn't want to. Agree when you wanted to say something completely opposite. Stay when you felt like stepping back. Now imagine something different. Imagine that instead of overriding, you paused just for ten seconds. Take a nice inhale, lengthen your exhale, wiggle your feet, soften your jaw, and instead of reacting, you said, I need a moment, or I'm not sure about that. Or let me think. What might have shifted? Not the other person, but you. Would you have felt steadier afterwards, more self-respecting, maybe less resentful later? This is where body trust begins, not in dramatic exits, in small interruptions of the override. When women rebuild body trust, they leave unhealthy dynamics sooner, overexplain less, feel calmer in conflict, make decisions faster, advocate without exploding. Confidence becomes physiological, not performative. Calm does not mean passive. Strong does not mean loud. Clear does not mean harsh. So if this conversation resonated, this is exactly the work we'll be practicing together in my somatic group in April. If you're listening and recognizing yourself, the pattern of bracing, overriding, of confusing anxiety with intuition, this is exactly what we practice in my six-week somatic healing group beginning April 21st. We don't just talk about this, we regulate in real time, we practice speaking from steadiness, we rebuild trust through action. It's a small therapist-led container, five women, because this work requires safety. Enrollment opens March 23rd. If this episode felt personal, this space was built for you. You don't need to become someone new, you need to steady your nervous system, and your body is not broken. It's just protecting you. Now we teach it something new. If you'd like to support this podcast, please follow. Hit a like button, hit a thumbs up, hit a heart, leave a review, leave an emoji comment about your favorite heart. Or please just share it with someone that you think would like to hear this because this helps me reach other women who are quietly healing as well. Check out the show notes for signing up for the wait list for the somatic healing group that is opening. Enrollment is opening March 23rd. Group starts April 21st, which is a Tuesday. It will be on Tuesdays from all the details will be mentioned. I'm not gonna say numbers right now. I got him confused. So they're gonna be on Tuesdays in the evenings for an hour and a half, six weeks long. The full investment is$300, and that is due an enrollment to secure your spot. But you can enjoy you can join the wait list through the link in the show notes. Spots are limited to five women. They will fill it fast. Once again, enrollment opens March 23rd. If you prefer individual work, you can book a free 15-minute conference consultation at the same link. Everything you need is in the show notes on the Link Tree site. So until next time, my dears, I want you to know that you are never too much, never too late, and you don't have to figure it out all alone. I'm right here every Wednesday, sometimes Fridays, if I feel like throwing in a bonus and something sparked my creativity. May you be happy and free. May our healing ripple hour to bless the world with happiness and freedom. Take care of your awakened heart, and I will see you soon.